Be Happy

"If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom."- Anthony de Mello

De Mello

Here are some of my favorites from Anthony De Mello.





“Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you don't have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why don't you experience it? Because you've got to drop something. You've got to drop illusions. You don't have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something. Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels!”




“As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. No reality fits an ideology. Life is beyond that. … That is why people are always searching for a meaning to life… Meaning is only found when you go beyond meaning. Life only makes sense when you perceive it as mystery and it makes no sense to the conceptualizing mind.”




“"I have no fear of losing u, for you aren't an object of my property, or anyone else's. I love you as you are, without attachment, without fears, without conditions, without egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, as well as mine.”




“People mistakenly assume that their thinking is done by their head; it is actually done by the heart which first dictates the conclusion, then commands the head to provide the reasoning that will defend it.”




“If what you seek is Truth, there is one thing you must have above all else.” “I know. An overwhelming passion for it.” “No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.”




“When you are guilty, it is not your sins you hate but yourself.”




“When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday, you are wiser today.”




“the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.”




“Any time you are with anyone or think of anyone you must say to yourself: I am dying and this person too is dying, attempting the while to experience the truth of the words you are saying. If every one of you agrees to practice this, bitterness will die out, harmony will arise.”




“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”




“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.”




― Anthony de Mello, Awareness




“You see persons and things not as they are but as you are. ”

― Anthony de Mello

The Cowboy's Lasso

“And that is how change happens. One gesture. One person. One moment at a time.”
― Libba Bray, The Sweet Far Thing




If you are in the process changing a certain area of your life, like a bad habit or a challenging situation, to something better than it used to and somehow it seems that instead of changing, to your surprise, the problem keeps on happening over and over again.

The reason is because, you keep on putting your attention into the bad habit or the problem. Maybe you have unconsciously allowed yourself to keep on talking about it, venting it our with other people,  sarcastically or in a joking manner or maybe secretly complaining about it in your mind.

Another is maybe, you have unconsciously drawn it to you by being self-righteous and seeing the problem in other people and giving them unsolicited advice. Or maybe, you have unconsciously drawn it to you by watching movies, joining organizations or group activities or trainings/seminars or shows that has the same theme as your problem or bad habit.

Remember, your thoughts and feelings have power. Where you place your thoughts, words and feelings you draw it back to you. 

Most people like to change for the better but they are like cowboys.

What I mean by this, is that cowboys uses a lasso for a purpose-> to 'pull something’ towards them.

And most people, most of the time have unconsciously allowed themselves to act like cowboys, who draws a lasso to pull an animal towards them.

That is what most people do whenever they put their attention to a problem or a bad habit, they pull it back to them. That's why they have a hard time changing. They want to change but they keep on pulling it back to them like a lasso.

Changing is easy. The best way for you to change is you say goodbye to the problem or the bad habit and leave it, forever and never look back. Like a love story that is not working out for you anymore, you have to say to it, "I am breaking up with you(problem/bad habit), this is not going to work anymore. I love you, Goodbye." And you move on and place your attention only on what you want in thoughts, feelings, words and actions-> and keep it there.

Keeping it there means not thinking, seeing, feeling or talking about it anymore with yourself, friends or colleagues. And to only think, see, feel and talk about the things you want to happen in your life.

Research has shown, that the mind do not recognize what is real from what is imagined. That means, whatever you think or feel the universe brings it into form and you attract it back to you.

The universe do not care if you are a good or bad person it is indifferent, just like gravity. the Law of Attraction and Vibration states that whatever you think and feel you draw it back to you just like a magnet.

We have to see people and the world the way  God sees it. Which is to only focus on the good and magnify it and let the negativity falls away.

We've all heard the sayings...

"Where you put your focus on you get more of that."

"Man becomes what he thinks about."

"As a man thinks in his heart so is he."

But how many people do really understand it?