There is no higher purpose than service to others.
When you serve, you give and help freely.
It's like the unconditional love of a mother.
You cannot love people if you need people either in business, politics or in relationships. You got to manipulate or influence them in some way to get them to serve your own purpose.
In service, there are no demands of loyalty or expectations of anything in return. Just purely unadulterated giving value without guilt, jealousy or resentment.
When there is expectations, demands, jealousy, manipulation that is not love, it is fear.
Most people are not aware that the cause of distress distress, lack of money, depression, unhealthy body and unhappiness is simply, selfishness.
Perhaps, through laziness, lack of awareness and ignorance, they have unconsciously allowed themselves to become selfish even to their own selves. They have deprived their own selves of the happiness, education, abundance, relationship and health they so rightly deserve.
When you find yourself getting upset, angry, depressed, lonely, unhealthy, overweight or emotionally unstable, remember you are the one who decided to feel that way and be in that position you are in, by the choices you've made or have not made.
You are the driver of your car, unless you are a zombie, but you are not, you are a fully functional being capable of choosing your own choices.
Stop being selfish to yourself. Start taking full responsibility of your life. Instead of walking around feeling like a victim, having self-pity and feeling sorry for what has happened to you, wake up and start living the life that you want.
In the age of information ignorance is a choice. If you help yourself to be educated properly in the areas of your life that needs to be handled you will succeed definitely.
You have to realize that you are the creator of your world. You have created it and you could change it too. For things to change you have to change.
If you want to live a positive, joyful life, you cannot be surrounded by negative people who don’t encourage your happiness.
As a negative person, I attracted negative people. When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of the most negative influences in it. No one is perfect and perfection isn’t the goal when it comes to positivity but there were people in my life who were consistently negative, who constantly brought me down, and I had to stop spending so much time with them.
This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. It can hurt to distance yourself from people even when you know they aren’t good for you or your current lifestyle.
In addition to removing negative influences from me, I also had to get rid of some of my own negative behaviors, such as cursing and excessive drinking of alcohol during house parties and little 'soirees' I had going back then. I had to take a step back and examine which behaviors were good for me and which were not.
I learned to focus on the positive things I was doing such as working on my businesses and cultivating new, positive relationships and let go of the negative ones.
This process was not easy and, to be honest, is still ongoing, but I know this: It’s hard to live a positive life when negative people and behaviors continually pull you down. Like what one of my favorite fictional characters used to say.
"He's an anchor, Cut him loose." -Harvey Specter -Ronz
Scotoma means, the mind sees what it wants to see.
We see what we have a mind to see. --Robert S Hartman
More then that, we see what makes us comfortable:
But once a negative bias begins, out lenses become clouded. We tend to seize on whatever seems to confirm the bias and ignore what does not. Prejudice, in this sense, is a hypothesis desperately trying to prove itself to us. And so when we encounter someone to whom the prejudice might apply, the bias skews our perception, making it impossible to test whether the stereotype actually fits. Openly hostile stereotypes about a group - to the extent they rest on untested assumptions - are mental categories gone awry. --Daniel Goleman
Because what you judge you cannot understand. --Anthony De Mello
We see what we want to see:
Some students begin by forming an opinion ... and it is not till afterward that they begin to read the texts. They run a great risk of not understanding them at all, or of understanding them wrongly. What happens is that a kind of tacit contest goes on between the text and the preconceived opinions of the reader; the mind refuses to grasp what is contrary to its idea, and the issue of the evidence of the text but that the text yields, bends, and accommodates itself to the preconceived opinion. --Fustel de Coulanges
Are you listening, as most people do, in order to confirm what you already think? --Anthony De Mello
What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact. --Warren Buffett
And the truth? Were is it? What is it?
Don't seek the truth; just drop your opinions. --Anthony De Mello
I've read book by Anthony "Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality" couple of times, found it amazing but stayed puzzled. HVP test showed me a new direction of thinking towards values and valuation and finally, when I've realized that valuation is in other words judgment, I thought, is this what Anthony wanted to say?
My aim is to ponder our collective predicament: if we so easily full ourselves into subtle sleep, how can we awaken? The first step in that, it seems to me, is to notice how it is that we are asleep.
Contemporary researchers have adopted a rather radical premise: that much or most consequential activity in the mind goes on outside awareness. --Daniel Goleman
Valuation or (pre)judgment gives objects, situation and people different values. In extreme case it allows for totally reverted valuation and choices. Painting remains to be a painting no matter if it's by Leonardo da Vinci or my little kid. It's our thinking that gives one or the other much greater value.
What Antony say is that we are programmed to value or judge in a certain way which changes the reality. We are not aware, we don't see things as they are but as we are because we look through our lenses of judgment. And our judgment is a coping strategy that prevent us from the pain of what causes or caused anxiety to us:
The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice there is little we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.
Technically speaking, "coping" is the term for a range of cognitive maneuvers that relieve stress arousal by changing one's own reaction rather than altering the stressful situation itself.
That framework and data show, in modern terms, how the self-system protects us against anxiety by skewing attention.
For many serious sources of stress in life, there's little or nothing that can be done to change things. If so, you're better off if you do nothing except take care of your feelings ... healthy people use palliatives all the time, with no ill effect. Having a drink or taking tranquilizers are palliatives. So is denial, intellectualizing, and avoiding negative thoughts. When they don't prevent adaptive action, they help greatly. --Daniel Goleman
So how much awareness is possible? There's just too much input information around us. How can we train our unconsciousness to filter "properly"? Isn't that "properly" just another appealing system?
I sometimes failed to persuade the court that I was right, but I never failed to persuade myself! --Roger Fisher
When you awaken, when you understand, when you see, the world becomes right. We're always bothered by the problem of evil.
There's a powerful story about a little boy walking along the bank of a river. He sees a crocodile who is trapped in a net.
The crocodile says, "Would you have pity on me and release me? I may look ugly, but it isn't my fault, you know. I was made this way. But whatever my external appearance, I have a mother's heart. I came this morning in search of food for my young ones and got caught in this trap!"
So the boy says, "Ah, if I were to help you out of that trap, you'd grab me and kill me."
The crocodile asks, "Do you think I would do that to my benefactor and liberator?"
So the boy is persuaded to take the net off and the crocodile grabs him.
As he is being forced between the jaws of the crocodile, he says, "So this is what I get for my good actions." And the crocodile says, "Well, don't take it personally, son, this is the way the world is, this is the law of life."
The boy disputes this, so the crocodile says, "Do you want to ask someone if it isn't so?"
The boy sees a bird sitting on a branch and says, "Bird, is what the crocodile says right?" The bird says, "The crocodile is right. Look at me. I was coming home one day with food for my fledglings. Imagine my horror to see a snake crawling up the tree, making straight for my nest. I was totally helpless. It kept devouring my young ones, one after the other. I kept screaming and shouting, but it was useless. The crocodile is right, this is the law of life, this is the way the world is."
"See," says the crocodile. But the boy says, "Let me ask someone else." So the crocodile says, "Well, all right, go ahead."
There was an old donkey passing by on the bank of the river. "Donkey," says the boy, "this is what the crocodile says. Is the crocodile right?"
The donkey says, "The crocodile is quite right. Look at me. I've worked and slaved for my master all my life and he barely gave me enough to eat. Now that I'm old and useless, he has turned me loose, and here I am wandering in the jungle, waiting for some wild beast to pounce on me and put an end to my life. The crocodile is right, this is the law of life, this is the way the world is."
"See," says the crocodile. "Let's go!"
The boy says, "Give me one more chance, one last chance. Let me ask one other being. Remember how good I was to you?" So the crocodile says, "All right, your last chance."
The boy sees a rabbit passing by, and he says, "Rabbit, is the crocodile right?"
The rabbit sits on his haunches and says to the crocodile, "Did you say that to that boy? The crocodile says, "Yes, I did." "Wait a minute," says the rabbit. "We've got to discuss this." "Yes," says the crocodile. But the rabbit says, "How can we discuss it when you've got that boy in your mouth? Release him; he's got to take part in the discussion, too." The crocodile says, "You're a clever one, you are. The moment I release him, he'll run away." The rabbit says, "I thought you had more sense than that. If he attempted to run away, one slash of your tail would kill him."
"Fair enough," says the crocodile, and he released the boy. The moment the boy is released, the rabbit says, "Run!" And the boy runs and escapes. Then the rabbit says to the boy, "Don't you enjoy crocodile flesh? Wouldn't the people in your village like a good meal? You didn't really release that crocodile; most of his body is still caught in that net. Why don't you go to the village and bring everybody and have a banquet."
That's exactly what the boy does. He goes to the village and calls all the men folk. They come with their axes and staves and spears and kill the crocodile. The boy's dog comes, too, and when the dog sees the rabbit, he gives chase, catches hold of the rabbit, and throttles him. The boy comes on the scene too late, and as he watches the rabbit die, he says, "The crocodile was right, this is the way the world is, this is the law of life."
There is no explanation you can give that would explain away all the sufferings and evil and torture and destruction and hunger in the world! You'll never explain it. You can try gamely with your formulas, religious and otherwise, but you'll never explain it. Because life is a mystery, which means your thinking mind cannot make sense out of it. For that you've got to wake up and then you'll suddenly realize that reality is not problematic, you are the problem.
FOR WHAT WILL IT PROFIT A MAN, IF HE GAINS THE WHOLE WORLD AND FORFEITS HIS LIFE? —MATTHEW 16: 26
Recall the kind of feeling you have when someone praises you, when you are approved, accepted, applauded. And contrast that with the kind of feeling that arises within you when you look at the sunset or the sunrise or Nature in general, or when you read a book or watch a movie that you thoroughly enjoy. Get the taste of this feeling and contrast it with the first, namely, the one that was generated within you when you were praised.
Understand that the first type of feeling comes from self-glorification, self-promotion. It is a worldly feeling. The second comes from self-fulfillment, a soul feeling.
Here is another contrast: Recall the kind of feeling you have when you succeed, when you have made it, when you get to the top, when you win a game or a bet or an argument. And contrast it with the kind of feeling you get when you really enjoy the job you are doing, you are absorbed in, the action that you are currently engaged in. And once again notice the qualitative difference between the worldly feeling and the soul feeling.
Yet another contrast: Remember what you felt like when you had power, you were the boss, people looked up to you, took orders from you; or when you were popular. And contrast that worldly feeling with the feeling of intimacy, companionship— the times you thoroughly enjoyed yourself in the company of a friend or with a group in which there was fun and laughter.
Having done this, attempt to understand the true nature of worldly feelings, namely, the feelings of self-promotion, self-glorification. They are not natural, they were invented by your society and your culture to make you productive and to make you controllable. These feelings do not produce the nourishment and happiness that is produced when one contemplates Nature or enjoys the company of one’s friends or one’s work. They were meant to produce thrills, excitement— and emptiness.
Then observe yourself in the course of a day or a week and think how many actions of yours are performed, how many activities engaged in that are uncontaminated by the desire for these thrills, these excitements that only produce emptiness, the desire for attention, approval, fame, popularity, success or power.
And take a look at the people around you. Is there a single one of them who has not become addicted to these worldly feelings? A single one who is not controlled by them, hungers for them, spends every minute of his/ her waking life consciously or unconsciously seeking them? When you see this you will understand how people attempt to gain the world and, in the process, lose their soul. For they live empty, soul-less lives.
And here is a parable of life for you to ponder on: A group of tourists sits in a bus that is passing through gorgeously beautiful country; lakes and mountains and green fields and rivers. But the shades of the bus are pulled down. They do not have the slightest idea of what lies beyond the windows of the bus. And all the time of their journey is spent in squabbling over who will have the seat of honor in the bus, who will be applauded, who will be well considered. And so they remain till the journey’s end.
“The scholar does not consider gold and jade to be precious treasures, but loyalty and good faith.”
― Confucius, The Ethics of Confucius
Awhile ago I had an interesting conversation with some friends about the subject of loyalty. I stated my reason why I don't ask for people to be loyal to me or to the organization. It's simple, it's actually due to negative social conditioning.
Let me tell you why.
To my readers... please, take caution in reading this post because it will naturally squeeze your mind for a bit because of the mind bending and enlightening ideas that is contained here. But after reading this you will feel better and automatically be released for any commitments that you've made that is against your will.
If you think you are ready, then let's proceed.
ENVIRONMENT
“Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking.”
― Steve Jobs
If you'll look closely and carefully study human behavior of our society, most people use "Loyalty" not because out of love but because of control. Don't you agree? I know you do.
I don't have to cite examples actually. You've felt it your entire life. Look around you. Every single person, teacher, guru, family, school, religion, organization or group always demands loyalty. Most people's definition of loyalty that you see around you stems not from love but from fear, hate, jealousy, control and insecurity.
Also in the media, it is portrayed that if you are not loyal you are banished and people will look at you and label you negatively. It's very obvious that loyalty is mostly abused in religion, relationships and the business world to gain control and that is not love.
Don't get me wrong. It's okay to be loyal it helps organizations like, school, army, government or small groups to be organized. Be loyal all you want, but make sure you are loyal because you want to, not because you felt guilty or indebted to a person or a group. Because, once you feel uncomfortable committing or being loyal that means you are acting out of fear and not of God's love. Think about it.
Remember, the ego wants control. It demands loyalty to people. Because the ego is afraid to be alone. It needs to validate and prove something. Control comes from fear. As Yoda put it, Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to the dark side.
“If you wish to control others you must first control yourself”
― Miyamoto Musashi, A Book of Five Rings: The Classic Guide to Strategy
HISTORY
“In the 17th chapter of Saint Luke it is written the Kingdom of God is within man, not one man, nor a group of men, but in all men, in you, you the people have the power!”
-Charlie Chaplin
In my years of research and study of thousands of spiritual literature, I've learned that in ancient times, people were trained to give oaths and promises to be loyal Only to God's principles and virtues- such as love, forgiveness, compassion, oneness and all those high ideals.
And with this kind of mindset, people are able to maintain harmonious relationships. Because they need only to be loyal to God's ideals.
In the bible Colossians 3:11, it said that "Christ is all, and is in all." that means God is loyal to everyone of us not just one person or group. Because God is in everything and in everyone.
Which means, they become even more connected to each other because, they only have to be loyal to God and everything of God's creation this in turn unites them all, they become one.
On the other hand.. What happened as the years, decades and centuries passed by, people started to drift away from a higher to a lower form of consciousness from the divine perspective they shifted to the human perspective and started personalizing it and totally forgot the principles and high ideals.
It means that, instead of being loyal to God and it's principles, people started being loyal to external things like persons, groups, organizations and this created all the isms, creeds, religions in our world and that lead to separation- The 'us' against them mentality.
“I don't care a damn about men who are loyal to the people who pay them, to organizations...I don't think even my country means all that much. There are many countries in our blood, aren't there, but only one person. Would the world be in the mess it is if we were loyal to love and not to countries?”
― Graham Greene, Our Man in Havana
LOYALTY IS IMPERSONAL
"It is a useless life that is not consecrated to a great ideal.
It is like a stone wasted in the field without becoming part of an edifice."
-Jose Rizal
If you'll be loyal to a group, person or God be loyal to it's ideals. People and Organizations will fade but ideals will stand and live on forever. Within the minds, hearts and lives of the people.
A Leader or an Idol should not be placed on a pedestal or be worshiped. An Idol should be an ideal state of being. Most people forgets the ideal and starts to idolized, objectify a person or organization than to idealized and personify the ideal and embody the vision.
Loyalty is about service and service is about unconditional love. Service to others leads to greatness. That means, when you serve, you love without expecting or demanding anything in return.
All the things that makes you angry and irritated exist only in you.
Nothing in the world can make you feel bad, angry, depressed, irritated, emotional or lonely unless you have trained yourself to be angry and irritated by certain words, conditions and people.
10% is what happens to you 90% is your reaction to it.
When you are not busy actively making yourself miserable, by reacting negatively to people, situations and circumstances, you will be happy.
What makes you unhappy is the programming you got from other people. The beliefs you got with the people or group you associate, the Media, your parents, your neighborhood.
What makes you feel bad is your social conditioning.
We live in a world where the society promotes getting angry, depressed, irritated, criticism, gossiping, judging competition, fear, jealousy, emotional, upset as something normal. How unfortunate.
We can't do anything about other people's belief, but we can do something about our beliefs. We can choose to live in the light or in the dark.
We are all okay. We just allowed other people to put wrong ideas in our heads that's why some of us are suffering.
All the things that makes you angry and irritated exist only in you.
Nothing in the world can make you feel bad, angry, depressed, irritated, emotional or lonely unless you have trained yourself to be angry and irritated by certain words, conditions and people. 10% is what happens to you 90% is your reaction to it.
When you are not busy actively making yourself miserable, by reacting negatively to people, situations and circumstances, you will be happy.
What makes you unhappy is the programming you got from other people. The beliefs you got with the people or group you associate, the Media, your parents, your neighborhood.
"I don't create some loser alter-ego just to make myself feel better." -Angelo
Competition has brought more misery than victory. Instead of everybody succeeding only one makes it. Being the best at the expense of another does not benefit the world but yourself.
Companies, institutions and teachers insist on this kind of limiting belief that somehow in some hokus-pokus way they will be able to bring out 'the best' in people, It simply cannot. It just brings out more of their Ego for their benefit. Not because everybody is doing it, it is right.
A true Leader does not instill competition in people only a Boss does that. A true Leader teaches Unity, Teamwork, Cooperation.
Cooperation creates more winners than losers. Through unity there is speed of progress.
"We routinely look for patterns in the world that confirm the paradigms we already believe in. The things that do not fit our paradigms- the anomalies- tend to be ignored or explained away. In truth, anomalies themselves contain the richest information. They often reveal to us the flaws in our paradigms and open up new ways of looking at the world."
"They (anomalies) often represent the future, but to our eyes they seem strange. By studying them, you can illuminate this future before anyone else does."
"If you want to know what it means to be happy, look at a flower, a bird, a child; they are perfect images of the kingdom. For they live from moment to moment in the eternal now with no past and no future. So they are spared the guilt and anxiety that so torment human beings and they are full of the sheer joy of living, taking delight not so much in persons or things as in life itself. As long as your happiness is caused or sustained by something or someone outside of you, you are still in the land of the dead. The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom."- Anthony de Mello
Here are some of my favorites from Anthony De Mello.
“Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you don't have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why don't you experience it? Because you've got to drop something. You've got to drop illusions. You don't have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something. Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels!”
“As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. No reality fits an ideology. Life is beyond that. … That is why people are always searching for a meaning to life… Meaning is only found when you go beyond meaning. Life only makes sense when you perceive it as mystery and it makes no sense to the conceptualizing mind.”
“"I have no fear of losing u, for you aren't an object of my property, or anyone else's. I love you as you are, without attachment, without fears, without conditions, without egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, as well as mine.”
“People mistakenly assume that their thinking is done by their head; it is actually done by the heart which first dictates the conclusion, then commands the head to provide the reasoning that will defend it.”
“If what you seek is Truth, there is one thing you must have above all else.” “I know. An overwhelming passion for it.” “No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.”
“When you are guilty, it is not your sins you hate but yourself.”
“When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday, you are wiser today.”
“the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.”
“Any time you are with anyone or think of anyone you must say to yourself: I am dying and this person too is dying, attempting the while to experience the truth of the words you are saying. If every one of you agrees to practice this, bitterness will die out, harmony will arise.”
“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”
“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.”
― Anthony de Mello, Awareness
“You see persons and things not as they are but as you are. ”
“And that is how change happens. One gesture. One person. One moment at a time.”
― Libba Bray, The Sweet Far Thing
If you are in the process changing a certain area of your life, like a bad habit or a challenging situation, to something better than it used to and somehow it seems that instead of changing, to your surprise, the problem keeps on happening over and over again.
The reason is because, you keep on putting your attention into the bad habit or the problem. Maybe you have unconsciously allowed yourself to keep on talking about it, venting it our with other people, sarcastically or in a joking manner or maybe secretly complaining about it in your mind.
Another is maybe, you have unconsciously drawn it to you by being self-righteous and seeing the problem in other people and giving them unsolicited advice. Or maybe, you have unconsciously drawn it to you by watching movies, joining organizations or group activities or trainings/seminars or shows that has the same theme as your problem or bad habit.
Remember, your thoughts and feelings have power. Where you place your thoughts, words and feelings you draw it back to you.
Most people like to change for the better but they are like cowboys.
What I mean by this, is that cowboys uses a lasso for a purpose-> to 'pull something’ towards them.
And most people, most of the time have unconsciously allowed themselves to act like cowboys, who draws a lasso to pull an animal towards them.
That is what most people do whenever they put their attention to a problem or a bad habit, they pull it back to them. That's why they have a hard time changing. They want to change but they keep on pulling it back to them like a lasso.
Changing is easy. The best way for you to change is you say goodbye to the problem or the bad habit and leave it, forever and never look back. Like a love story that is not working out for you anymore, you have to say to it, "I am breaking up with you(problem/bad habit), this is not going to work anymore. I love you, Goodbye." And you move on and place your attention only on what you want in thoughts, feelings, words and actions-> and keep it there.
Keeping it there means not thinking, seeing, feeling or talking about it anymore with yourself, friends or colleagues. And to only think, see, feel and talk about the things you want to happen in your life.
Research has shown, that the mind do not recognize what is real from what is imagined. That means, whatever you think or feel the universe brings it into form and you attract it back to you.
The universe do not care if you are a good or bad person it is indifferent, just like gravity. the Law of Attraction and Vibration states that whatever you think and feel you draw it back to you just like a magnet.
We have to see people and the world the way God sees it. Which is to only focus on the good and magnify it and let the negativity falls away.
We've all heard the sayings...
"Where you put your focus on you get more of that."
"Wise men talk because they have something to say. Fools talk because they have to say something."-Plato
Strong people take life by the horns. They fight for those who can't fight for themselves. They are generous with their strength. They operate out of love and creativity. They view their problems as being things they can change and have internal emotional control.
Soft and Sensitive people mostly are insecure and have low self-esteem. They operate to become better than the competition. And because of ignorance and lack of enough intelligence they rely too much on entitlement or outside things like money, skills, weapons for confidence, happiness and success.
Weak people, they view themselves as victims of the world. They don't take full responsibility for their fate. They operate out of fear, hate, anger and lives a life on revenge. They simply walk through life complaining, blaming and talks about how other other people made their lives miserable. And are easily shaken off by strong people but will latch on the sensitive people. They have no will to fight and will constantly use their past to justify their issues.
-Study this small story. Hope that it makes a BIG change in YOU.-
A Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students, “How much do you think this glass weighs?” '50g!' ....'100g!' ..... '125g'..the students answered. “I really don't know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?” 'Nothing' …..the students said. 'Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?' the professor asked. 'Your arm would begin to ache' said one of the student. “You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?” “Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!” … ventured another student & all the students laughed … “Very good, But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” asked the professor. ‘No’…. Was the answer. “Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?” The students were puzzled. “What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again. ‘Put the glass down!’ said one of the students. “Exactly!” said the professor.
Life's problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK. Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache. Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything. It's important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to ‘PUT THEM DOWN’ at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh & strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way! So, When you leave office today..
Remember my friend to … 'PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY!
"The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds."
- William James
I realized that the more awakened you become the more you understand the world. And the less you conform to the society's level of thinking, because you understand how the power of your thoughts affect things and the world around you.
Since you understand the natural order of things, the less you criticize, the less you see and respond to the negativity around you. Because, things are not what they seem. The eyes and words are a bit primitive way of communicating information.
Most people would rather follow the herd. Since the rest of mankind would fight, hate, condemn, criticize, be right, than live differently. And it's sometimes hard to stand alone when everybody around you is doing the same things.
From womb to tomb, not a lot of people are taught how to control their feelings and that is the danger lies. School, parents, church, religion, government, media will not teach you how to control your feelings they will teach you just to obey and not question authority.
And people who do not know how to control their feelings is in a bad way, because they will easily give into feelings of hate, irritation, criticism anger and what-not. They would easily be swayed to what the rest of the world is doing, even if in their heart they know its wrong.
Sometimes its a bit challenging to live in a society where you see a lot of chaos and most especially ignorance, because nobody wants to question what their parents, families, school, government, religion have taught them. Most people would rather allow other people to do the thinking for them, than think for themselves. Which is maybe, one of the reasons, why there are some people who choose to live a monastic life.
But I believe we have the power to change things. And that a developed man is not somebody who is well read, intelligent, speaks well or possesses the most skill or riches.
The developed man is the one who spends most of his attention in improving himself than improving other people. He focuses in the higher virtues of Life (love, peace, understanding, tolerance, giving) than that of the physical senses (fear, irritation, criticism, hate, selfishness).
Because he understands and do thinks differently than the rest of the world. He maintains obedience with the higher laws in every area of his life, even if he is alone. Because he doesn't conform, he do things differently.
And I believe that when you use your thoughts in ways such as these you will become a bonfire of blessing in your corner of the world.
You can't change other people, you can only change yourself. And when you change everything around you changes.
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” ― John Lennon
People who use fear can never build strong and lasting organizations. They always operate alone why? It's because people who uses fear and intimidation are always paranoid and on the look out of possible danger, it is their nature.
It doesn't trust anybody but itself. It doesn't even trust its family or even its friend. It does not even trust its team or anybody because it only operates alone for its selfish purposes and will leave anybody in the dirt anytime, if the cookie crumbles(everyman for himself). They treat people as tools for their selfish motives. And without the foundation of trust, we have nothing.
You cannot trust anyone who doesn't trust anybody.
Think about these examples.
Can a robber trust a fellow robber? I don't think so, right?
Can a swindler trust a fellow swindler?
And a corrupt politician does not trust another corrupt politician.
Makes sense, right?
Throughout history you've heard the stories of Hitler, Stalin, the Spaniards, japanese invasion, where are they now? These people used fear to control and manipulate their people and they are all gone now together with the people who followed them all gone.
When Light is turned on in a room, darkness instantly disappears, just like that. And no matter how hard it fights it has no power of its own because, it needs other people to survive.
In every story that you've seen about any battle like Dragon ball Z, Ironman Superman and Green Lantern the Light always win, always. Without contest. Fear never last.
Experts say, that the universe is made up of energy, it is made up of Light. And the darkness that you see in the sky at night is not darkness but your eyes just couldn't see beyond the spectrum of that light, that is the reason for the term 'color-blind'. Your eyes couldn't see beyond ultraviolet or infrared not possible, thus you see darkness in the sky, unless of course you use a high-powered telescope.
So basically yes, there is only Light in this Universe.
Darkness and fear only exist in the human mind. It is created by humans because of their ignorance and their stubbornness to snap out of this hypnotic social conditioning of the environment(media) that there is fear. (False Evidence Appearing Real)
"For a warrior, to be inaccessible means that he touches the world around him sparingly. And above all, he deliberately avoids exhausting himself and others. He doesn't use and squeeze people until they have shriveled to nothing, especially the people he loves." - Carlos Castaneda.
The Principle behind the foundation of Trust is Love. Look at every major religion in the world that up to this day are still standing. Christianity, Islam and Buddhism to name a few, these organization were founded in Love by their leaders. Love remains forever. It has no beginning and no end.
People who love people, are loved. People who love, trusts everybody and everybody trust them. They don't walk around paranoid but they walk with pride and in peace. Only people who have fear in their hearts are the ones who are paranoid and always in the look out for danger and ready to fight.
Peaceful thoughts leads to peaceful words and actions that results to a peaceful life.
Just like our country and the founding fathers who protected and gave us our independence. Heroes like Rizal, Aguinaldo and Bonifacio they dedicated their lives on the line for the love of our country againts those people who intimidated and threaten the freedom of the people of the Philippines.
Love is the bond that unites people. Love is the bond that unites families and friends. Love is the bond that allows people to build a foundation of trust that creates lasting and timeless relationships that leads to massive organizations.
So always ask yourself this question. Is my organization coming from a place of fear or love? Am I operating from a place of fear or love?
“If what you seek is Truth, there is one thing you must have above all else.” “I know. An overwhelming passion for it.” “No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.”
― Anthony de Mello
If you are into any spiritual or religious practice the real truth is, you are finding out who you really are, not what religion tells you who you are.
Most people want to be taught what to do, instead of learning from experience and thinking for themselves.
Life is not a step by step system, it is free flowing, it is like water. What you should do is learn from your experience in life and drop those beliefs that does not work and adapt those that work.
Experience has taught me that separation, hate, fear, criticism, condemnation, gossip, being right, selfishness, and competition has created more misunderstandings in my life and hurt. Not only to me, by most especially to the people that is around me.
But if you look closely and sensitive enough, most religions would rather create separation, hate, fear, criticism, condemnation, gossip, being right, selfishness, and competition. They would follow blindly what is written in Holy Scriptures even if it doesn't feel right. Even if it would cause pain to another individual. Even if it will make them hurt another person gay, lesbian, sinners or whatnot.
"We think too much and feel too little." -Charlie Chaplin
Useless and unnecessary misunderstandings, fights, wars, murders in families, society and nations have been done in the name on what is written, than be sensitive and love one another.
Sad truth is, people will do and follow what is written and follow it blindly that to truly listen to their hearts and be compassionate with people. .
Most people don't live their lives fully aware. They live mechanical lives, mechanical thoughts- generally somebody else's mechanical emotions, mechanical actions, mechanical reactions. (more info read: THE MYTH)
We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each others' happiness, not by each other's misery.
Most people put too much emphasis on what they learn or read about Life. So, when what they've experienced is different from what they've read or been taught in religion, they disregard what they've experienced and follow what religion says, and which by the way results to more misunderstanding and hate.
Experience will tell you that putting your finger in the flame of the candle will burn you, not books. Experience will tell you that the food taste bad, not books. Experience is the best teacher not religion or holy books.
You can lie to other people but you can never lie to yourself. That is how your conscience works. You know in your heart what is right and what is not. It is not found in religious books or any book. What you know and feel is right is found within you.
When you see somebody sick and dying you feel compassion, and what you feel could not be explained in books. When you see your mom crying you feel sympathy for her and you reach out your arms and embrace her, you want her to feel your love, and that is not found in holy scriptures. You only learn that through experience.
The only way to change is by changing your understanding.
If you center your attention and start to feel your heart, you will begin to realize that you would rather be in harmony with another individual than say or do something negative to them. Nobody wants to hurt another individual you are by nature loving just like how your father above is.
In the ancient temple of Luxor; the outer temple where the beginning initiates are allowed to come, and the inner Temple where one can enter only after proven worthy and ready to acquire the higher knowledge and insights. One of the proverbs in the Outer Temple is "The body is the house of God." That is why it is said, "Man know thyself." In the Inner Temple, one of the many proverbs is "Man, know thyself ... and thou shalt know the gods. This understanding is one of the keys in truly understanding who you really are.
One of my favorite author said that: "As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. No reality fits an ideology. Life is beyond that. … That is why people are always searching for a meaning to life… Meaning is only found when you go beyond meaning. Life only makes sense when you perceive it as mystery and it makes no sense to the conceptualizing mind.”
Enlightenment really means you become who you really are and not what other people, religion or media tells you what to do. What you want to do is to creates more love than of the opposite it. You want to focus on the constructive side of life regardless of what the scriptures says. You want to forget and drop what is written and listen to what your heart tells you is right.
I’m sorry, but I don’t want to be an emperor. That’s not my business. I don’t want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible- Jew, Gentile, black men, white…
We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each others’ happiness, not by each other’s misery. We don’t want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way.
Greed has poisoned men’s souls; has barricaded the world with hate; has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind.
We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery ,we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in man; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all.
Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people.
To those who can hear me, I say “Do not despair.”
The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish.
Soldiers! Don’t give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you and enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder!
Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men—machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have a loveof humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate!
Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural.
Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty!
In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it’s written “the kingdom of God is within man”, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power.
Let us all unite.
Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill their promise. They never will!
Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people!
Now let us fight to fulfill that promise! Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance!
Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness.
Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite!
"Waste no time talking what a good man should be, be one."
